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Official reception of stars: The fashion of the cubism invades the official receptions of stars. Elton John with the handing-over of the music awards prices. Gabrielle Lys. Special Cubism Collection. February 2007.
Official reception of stars:
The fashion of the cubism invades the official receptions of stars. Elton John with the handing-over of the "music awards" prices.
Gabrielle Lys. Special Cubism Collection. February 2007.


The coat bar: Militant opposed to the death penalty in the United States. The coat bar: symbol of the rebellion. Gabrielle Lys. Special Cubism Collection. May 2007.
The coat "bar":
Militant opposed to the death penalty in the United States. The coat "bar": symbol of the rebellion.
Gabrielle Lys. Special Cubism Collection. May 2007.


SPIRIT OF THE SEA: You know what it is necessary to do to live in the middle of the sirens? You go down at the sea-bed very far So far blue does not exist any more Where the sky is nothing any more but one to remember Once you are there, you remainders in silence And if you decide that you want to die for them To remain with them for eternity Then they come towards you and judge the love that you carry to them If it is sincere, if it is pure, and if they like you Then they will take you along for always [from the movie Le grand bleu]  The spirit of the sea with blue hair wears a dress sirne out of plastic. Gabrielle Lys. December 1th, 2008.
SPIRIT OF THE SEA:
"You know what it is necessary to do to live in the middle of the sirens?
You go down at the sea-bed very far
So far blue does not exist any more
Where the sky is nothing any more but one to remember
Once you are there, you remainders in silence
And if you decide that you want to die for them
To remain with them for eternity
Then they come towards you
and judge the love that you carry to them
If it is sincere, if it is pure, and if they like you
Then they will take you along for always"
[from the movie "Le grand bleu"]

The spirit of the sea with blue hair wears a dress "sirne" out of plastic.
Gabrielle Lys. December 1th, 2008.


The Shaman of the 3th millenium: black boots out of leather, warlike skirt in fabric embroidered with the colors of the clan, black mittens and bonnet out of wool, leggings, sweat and eye shadow clay of the caves, collar and braided hair Gabrielle Lys  with talisman in feathers of eagle. Gabrielle Lys  January 2006.
The Shaman of the 3th millenium:
black boots out of leather, warlike skirt in fabric embroidered with the colors of the clan, black mittens and bonnet out of wool, leggings, sweat and eye shadow "clay of the caves", collar and braided hair Gabrielle Lys  with talisman in feathers of eagle. Gabrielle Lys  January 2006.



Us, Builders of culture.

Roles related to the sex.

dot  It is generally believed that the properties of the character which define our personality rise naturally from the biological sex. Our society allots to male or female having been born specific and arbitrary significances, i.e. qualities, roles, particular identities to each sex. Our society prescribes social roles related to the sex which are models to be obligatorily followed. These roles related to the sex are relative at the same time to psychological characteristics, behaviors, activities which one allots to the male sex or rather to the female sex and which are supposed being "naturally" specific to one or the other sex. The psychologist Sandra Bem worked out an inventory of the roles related to the sex. Here some examples of male roles: to be ambitious, energetic, to make decisions easily, to behave as a leader... and female roles: to be soft, affectionate, sensitive to the needs for the others, to love the children...

The stereotypes remain from generation to generation.

dot  The perception of the roles related to the sex and its degree of adhesion are very early in the development of the little child. Throughout his socialization, the child and after the teenager will work out an identity in adequacy with the roles and the stereotypes assigned with his group of sex. This "sexual" identity induced conduits in conformity with these roles. Thus, the loop is buckled and the cycle can start again...

Dichotomy masculine - female.

dot  The masculine and the female one are in fact sociocultural constructions but it is difficult to perceive it. In our perception, there is a quite visible correspondence between the sexual membership and the interest which one can carry to certain things like the Skirts, merry colors or the use of make-up for example. As if it were in the "nature of the things". Thus, a real cleavage man - woman, a dichotomy made between masculine and female is made up and compresses, restricts all the potential varieties in the manner to be human.

Early childhood.

dot  As of the early childhood, one gives weapons out of toys or small cars at the little boy. The small girl finds herself with a headstock and a cradle to play at the mom. The separation of the sexes is engraved forever in them, in their unconscious. Once adult, their vision of the others and themselves will remain conditioned by this dichotomy.

dot  Our individuality with deep roots which escape to us and exceed us because they are foreign for us: others cultivated them for us, without our knowledge. Since most tender childhood, values are inculcated to us, and their sexual specificity is extremely marked.

Family, first yoke.
dot  The model even of the family holds a paramount place within the infantile identification: this first image of the male and female roles is determining for the child, and it will obviously tend to reproduce them. The integration of the model of the couple as normalizes social relations man-woman is dominant: the family is carrying incredibly strong diagrams of representations of the male and female roles. Today one knows thaht the imitation of the parents in the psychological development of a child is important.

Doll's tea party against small soldiers.

dot  The period of the festivals is revealing specialization of the toys. Since the blue and pink pages of the catalogues, to the shelves of the stores, one quickly realizes of the distribution of the plays in two exclusive categories. One invites girls to make like mom: doll's tea parties, headstocks predestining them with their future role of mother, domestic machines in reduction, panoplies of nurse, air-hostess, boxes of make-up... For boys, it is not a question to be like dad but more virile than dad. The plays of boy are related to the war, with the discovery, the adventure, the competition, the action, aggressiveness, the domination by the force or technical... All these values are conveyed by our society.

Daily bludgeoning.

dot  The media are at the origin of many commonplaces from which the individuals build themselves. Between the television, the radio, or even the publicities placarded in the streets, it is an image of the male and female stereotypes which anchors each time a little more. We would to question us on the socially built yokes which inhibit us and slow down us in the expression of our-self. If it is admitted that the two halves of the world population undergo a different training, how to imagine that each one can wear clothing which he likes without passing by a déconstruction of these social yokes?

We do not accept this dictatorship of the gender, nor do not want a single gender, but that each person builds himself(herself) as he(she)wishes.
The gender.

dot  The term "gender" was recently recognized like defining the individual, social and legal statute of a person, independently of his biological sex. Many people confuse the sex with the gender. The sex is of order biological whereas the gender is of psychosocial nature. Therefore, biology cannot dictate the gender or the personality of an individual. The gender is cultural and social. It is what one culturally allots to female or the masculine which gives the denomination of female gender or male gender to a person. The cultural one is not very suited to this kind of work. Moreover, a woman is not only female and a man is not only male. At each individual, femininity cohabits more or less with the masculinity. The levels of masculinity and femininity vary, more or less fluctuate in the course of time of each one of us according to the events, the feelings, the emotions which we live. If the gender of a person were not a data culturally related to the biological sex of the person, we would be surprised by the fluctuation of certain identities.

Evolution in the pain.

dot  The identity of gender which is not in conformity with our biologically sex is not pathological. But it is expressed in a painful way just because of the narrowness and the poverty of the possible identities in this society. Because of this "failure" which ratified persistent thinks and behaviors, the evolution is done in the pain. As long as we will not have redefined the behavior in terms of "human", rather than male or female, we will remain locked up in a dance of death. It was noticed that many people who became agitated, sick or unbalanced were lost in fact in this dichotomy masculine-female. The psychologists observed that these people tended to go from the one to the other rather than to test an alternative between the two. Thus, the transvestites are judicious duty always to regard themselves as "men", but abnormal men, not integrated or even in perverse fetishists. The transsexuals, them, must often completely disavow their male side and become a stereotype of a woman to be able to be integrated in the society. We can strongly doubt that these forms of socialization can lead to personal blooming and happiness.

Builders of culture.

dot  Our culture imposes the Dichotomy masculine - female of the gender to us by holding account of the biological sex. Our culture prevents us from embracing our diversity as something of naturalness - something which should be celebrated. I believe that the true solution with our dilemma it is all to include - not to do a dichotomy between masculine and female. We know, at the bottom of our heart, which we are much more than what our culture dictates to us. We can be able to reject these restrictions under all their forms, if we have a vision which transcends them, if we believe that we must go beyond. We must be conscious that each one of us, in all the measurement of its means, are Builders of culture and that it is while being ourselves that we will be able to do the best in this task - and not while being what the culture awaits from us. Since diversity which is in us is not any more in situation of contradiction or conflict, when this diversity become symbiosis, we experience a release of energy and a feeling to be well. When it is balanced and healthy, the human evolution abounds in all the directions. It does not require of the individual that he banish of his "oneself" the attributes and behaviors that the culture could in a way stereotyped to define as being inappropriate to his sex.

Conclusions.

dot  If you read me, you surely seek not to remain with what does not go in your life. Why always all put in drawers? Couldn't we also live with our male side and our female side while letting circulate energies freely between the two? The butterfly uses its two wings simultaneously! Imagine if the two wings did not beat together... it could not fly, to be free; it would remain on the ground as when there was caterpillar and would remain very vulnerable. Thus, remove these cultural stereotypes imposed by our society to discover what you are really and finally to be well in your head and your body.
Gabrielle

The site is a success thanks to you all. Thank you for your expressions of sympathy in the golden book and ideological support of members. Thank you also with those which write personal messages to me. They suit me right to the heart and push me to advance always further.
Gabrielle

BODY MY HOUSE: Body my house my horse my hound what will I do when you are fallen  Where will I sleep How will I ride What will I hunt When Body my good bright dog is dead  How will it be to lie in the sky without roof or door and wind for an eye  With cloud for shift how will I hide ?  [Question - May Swenson]  To be beautiful, it is also to take care of its body. He dyed his hair of wicks matched with his neo-gothic dress and wears boots with platform soles. Gabrielle Lys. December 25th, 2008.
BODY MY HOUSE:
"Body my house
my horse my hound
what will I do
when you are fallen

Where will I sleep
How will I ride
What will I hunt
When Body my good
bright dog is dead

How will it be
to lie in the sky
without roof or door
and wind for an eye

With cloud for shift
how will I hide ?"

["Question" - May Swenson]

To be beautiful, it is also to take care of its body. He dyed his hair of wicks matched with his neo-gothic dress and wears boots with platform soles.
Gabrielle Lys. December 25th, 2008.


TEMPTATION: He wears a simple skin and a dress in fabric. He holds up the cross of all his forces because he will yield to temptation. He will yield to temptation of devil. How could it be different?  Gabrielle Lys. April 27th, 2009.
TEMPTATION:
He wears a simple skin and a dress in fabric. He holds up the cross of all his forces because he will yield to temptation. He will yield to temptation of devil. How could it be different?

Gabrielle Lys. April 27th, 2009.


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je porte des jupes et jupons des années 50/60 a la maison mais n'ose pas sortir habillé comme cela dans la rue. Par contre je sort habillé en kilt écossais le plus souvent possible se qui ne me gêne pas car j'adore porter des jupes plissée et bien sur les kilts

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