KISS:
Couple on the platforms of North Station. Brussels.
Gabrielle Lys. September 2007.
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Achille:
Tee-shirt without handles and skirt out of red cotton with edges, knitted cap out of wool with feather, red wraps and riding boot. Gabrielle Lys February 2006.
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RED HAIR:
Between Cure and Tokio Hotel, the new wave singer wears a dress in sky and raises long red hair like fire.
Gabrielle Lys. December 9th, 2008.
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LE CHEVALIER D'EON:
True enigma of the 18th century, the Chevalier d'Eon was diplomat then secret agent. An ordinance of Louis XVI obliged him to keep wear female dress until his death… Spring 1777, the Chevalier d'Eon wears a hat to the Saint Domingue, a blouse with round low neckline on a high wrinkled skirt with great width.
Gabrielle Lys. August 6th, 2008.
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To dare the skirt, it is to develop a beautiful interiority.
"If I differ from you, far from injuring you, I increase you." [ Saint-Exupéry ]
I found this very beautiful interview of Saverio Tomasella which I publish here with the agreement of the author. It can be useful to each one among you who write to me not to dare the skirt.
Sources :
Interview of Saverio Tomasella. Psychoanalyst and author "to make peace with oneself" - (Eyrolles edition)
Which difficulties meet people who must assume a "difference"?
The fields of the differences is infinite. One can be too small, too large, too thin, too large. But also eccentric, marginal, night-bird, or to like to wear the skirt... From the point of view of the psychological mechanisms, one can say that the child who arrives at the world has a need inconcient to be recognized by his environment. Subjected to the social standards of a group (his family, his neighbors, the school), he will do everything unconsciously, to adhere to the values of this group.
What happen if a human being is discovered artist in a family where they hate that, or is manual in a intellectual family ?
he will not feel with the height of this request of harmonization and will live a conflict. From there, two scénarii are possible. Maybe, he meets a person (a grandmother, a friend, a teacher...) who carries it, which say to him "would be what you are". Then there, it is practically gained. In spite of the mockeries or comments, he will be able to be based on this word of the other. Maybe, he does not meet a support...
But what does it occur if, the most frequent case, he does not cross this support on his road?
A conflict between the ideal of the group and his reality (what he is able to bring) will settle in him. This conflict causes suffering. While growing, this faintness can evolve in two manners. Either it will push him to saying "Dash it!", to become a little rebellious or creative. we find a lot of people engaged in this category: trade unionists, artists, politicians. Maybe, he will induce a fold on oneself which can lead to despair or depression...
Are there common springs to the people who voluntarily choose a certain marginality?
We observe recurring diagrams. In closing families (rigid vestimentary, professional, of behavior codes), children feel with narrow, not recognized. Some will react by making a marginal choice. All rather than to conform to the family model. They will be tramp rather than insurance agent, travelling acrobat rather than doctor, or completely eccentric rather than assembled collet. It is a choice of survival which can save them and become an asset. But contrary, others turn over against them the cruelty of the system. Confronted with a devaluing language, they will become this least that nothing to not repudiate the system. The "difference" is then in the self-destruction or the negation of oneself. Painful.
Can Prear which process the difference become a richness?
In a general way, crossed of suffering, small or large, makes mature, makes more human. Different, I must face to mockeries, with the rejection, with the comments... My heart is obliged to be reinforced. I will more quickly become myself rather than on the others. It is a favorable ground to the emergence of a very beautiful interiority which, at the adulthood, will hatch. In the form of a particularly subtle way to like the life, or to like the others, or to approach work, the private life or to express an art; a many painters, singers, novelists result from this vein. It is very important to know that the difference is a chance. The pain which results from this makes it possible to better reach the bottom of its heart.
Which is the council to give to except standards people so that they live their marginality as well as possible?
Seek with deepest of you than there is of more human and express it humanly. The others will be humanized with your contact. Then the difference does not seem one obstacle any more. There is not difference that cannot be assumed and respected. Means of arriving there? That depends on the way of life but impossible to make this course alone. The human being needs another human being to structure himself. This other can be a friend, a love, a person of resource, a spiritual step. Or a therapeutist.
The five rules of an accomplished interiority:
1) To demolish glance of the others.
2) To give value to its own feelings ("what I feel, it is valid, even if it is not in conformity")
3) To transform its resentments into personal thoughts (if I smell myself badly, to manage to express it in "I" rather than to leave himself with "my colleague is bitch")
4) To touch his own loneliness ("I cannot be well with the others if I do not accept my loneliness")
5) To enter into contact with different people ("more I riches my pallet, more I accept my difference")
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![THE TRANSGENDER: the hour of the friends leave, the parents flee, the employers lay off, and the loves leave you. [Nath-Sakura - the TAROT OF LILITH] She wears an elegant skirt with opening on a bulky underskirt and a matched coat. His face is masked by a veil symbolizing the silence to which he is held for survivre. Unless that is to keep his anonymity… Gabrielle Lys. May 20, 2008.](dessin_gabrielle_lys/medium/20080520_robe_trans.jpg "THE TRANSGENDER: the hour of the friends leave, the parents flee, the employers lay off, and the loves leave you. [Nath-Sakura - the TAROT OF LILITH] She wears an elegant skirt with opening on a bulky underskirt and a matched coat. His face is masked by a veil symbolizing the silence to which he is held for survivre. Unless that is to keep his anonymity… Gabrielle Lys. May 20, 2008.")
THE TRANSGENDER:
the hour of the friends leave, the parents flee, the employers lay off, and the loves leave you." [Nath-Sakura - the TAROT OF LILITH]
"She" wears an elegant skirt with opening on a bulky underskirt and a matched coat. His face is masked by a veil symbolizing the silence to which he is held for "survivre". Unless that is to keep his anonymity…
Gabrielle Lys.
May 20, 2008.
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BAD:
Deer dress and boots with red scarf.
Gabrielle Lys. August 6th, 2009.
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Bonjour à toutes et tous,
Il y a bien longtemps que je ne suis plus venu sur cet agréable site.
Pour ma part, cela fait une dizaine d'années que je porte jupes et collants, ainsi que des robes plus récemment. Je suis un homme, et je porte ces vêtements pour varier mon habillement, sans travestissement, ni volonté de changer de sexe.
Je raconte mon "expérience d'homme en jupe" dans plusieurs articles sur le site de "Lila sur sa terrasse". Voici le lien vers le 8e article:
lilasursaterrasse.fr/la-jupe-pour-homme-ou-en-est-on-episode-8/
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![THE TRANSGENDER: the hour of the friends leave, the parents flee, the employers lay off, and the loves leave you. [Nath-Sakura - the TAROT OF LILITH] She wears an elegant skirt with opening on a bulky underskirt and a matched coat. His face is masked by a veil symbolizing the silence to which he is held for survivre. Unless that is to keep his anonymity… Gabrielle Lys. May 20, 2008.](affichephoto.php?GlobalLang=2&Photo=dessin_gabrielle_lys/verybig/20080520_robe_trans.jpg "THE TRANSGENDER: the hour of the friends leave, the parents flee, the employers lay off, and the loves leave you. [Nath-Sakura - the TAROT OF LILITH] She wears an elegant skirt with opening on a bulky underskirt and a matched coat. His face is masked by a veil symbolizing the silence to which he is held for survivre. Unless that is to keep his anonymity… Gabrielle Lys. May 20, 2008.")
